AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I
know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that
there was a large
man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is
that your partner?" In all seriousness, she
answered "How do you know?" Let me answer
this question because the chances are good that
it's weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning;
you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate
their calls, want their touch, and like their
idiosyncrasies.Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact,
it was a completely natural and spontaneous
experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my
feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you
were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous
experience. But after a few months or years of
being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a
natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if
they come at all), touch is not always welcome
(when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies,instead of being cute, drive you
nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every
relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference
between the initial stage when you were in love
and a much duller or even angry subsequent
stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start
asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you
reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had,
you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when relationships
breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not
finding the right person; it's learning to love the
person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness
and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital
fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes
people turn to work, a hobby, friendship,
excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the
answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your
relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with
someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY
you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same
situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not
finding the right person; it's learning to love the
Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous
experience. You have to work on it day in and day
out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most
importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to
know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no
mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things
you can do (with or without your partner), Just as
there are physical laws Of the universe (such as
gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If
you know how to apply these laws, the results are
predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who
walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who
you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you
refuse to let GO..

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